We all need help. Really. One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to ignore this question. “Where are your blind spots?” If you can’t see where you need help, then ask for help. I suggest three lenses you might look through:

Lens #1: Ask God

“…I did not rush out to consult with any human beings.” (Galatians 1:16)

Paul is explaining to the Galatians the legitimacy of his apostleship. He didn’t consult human beings for this position. It was given by God. This passage hit me in the sense that Paul didn’t run out and get people to affirm him or tell him what to do next. As you will see in Lens #2 and Lens #3, I am a fan of asking for both inside and outside human perspective. However, I am always concerned when our first move is to reach for this. We should always consult God first and then move out, not the other way around.

Where do you need to consult God today?

Lens #2: Ask your Staff, Family, or close Friends

Simply ask you closest leaders and friends where they think you need help. It is amazing how much can be broken loose with a few conversations.

Ask, “Where do you see that I need help?” Or “Where is it you see me struggling?” Or “Where am I holding the organization back?”

Lens #3: Hire a Consultant

My advice is to hire someone who has street cred and that you feel comfortable receiving feedback from. The worst thing is to hire a consult and then not listen to their wisdom and advice. I have seen this happen before. A consult is hired and the leader disregards the advice or works so slow towards change that nothing is ever really fixed. I remember one time I was siting in a meeting in with a consult and he had identified some real problems within this particular organization. He even used language like, “toxic” and basically said that the leadership needed to KICK the door down and figure out what was going on, because if they didn’t the ship was in real trouble. What did the leadership do? They ignored that advice and slowly tried to implement change. As you probably already guessed, didn’t work!

Remember, being self-aware is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and to the organization you are leading.

Blessings,
Pastor Daniel